By Ben Gosden and Jeremy Smith, Special Contributors… As we write this article, Jeremy is in Portland, Ore., holding his 2-week-old daughter, Anjali. Ben is 2,000 miles away in Macon, Ga., holding his 8-month-old daughter, Olivia. We have a lot in common. We are both United Methodist elders under age 35—Jeremy is fully ordained and Ben is coming up for ordination interviews this next year. We are both associate ministers at our churches. And we both want a better UMC for our daughters than the one we inherited. We both [...]